Developmental Trauma & C-PTSD Therapy
From surviving to thriving: towards real connection with yourself and others.
Whether you know your patterns inside out or have no idea what’s going on inside, change is possible. My approach to trauma therapy works with your body and your relationships, not just your understanding.
My work centers on NARM®, which focuses on how old survival strategies show up in your life today, not on retelling your whole story. Where it helps, I add body-based nervous-system work.
You don’t need to have everything figured out to begin.
A free 20-30 minute conversation to talk about what’s happening and see if working together fits. No obligation.
Online worldwide · In person on Koh Phangan, Thailand
Does any of this sound familiar?
Developmental trauma rarely looks like a dramatic incident. More often it looks like ordinary life going wrong in the same ways, again and again. You might see yourself in some of these.
IN YOUR BODY AND EMOTIONS
You feel on edge or braced even when nothing is wrong. Small things overwhelm you, or you go numb and flat and can’t feel much at all. Relaxing is hard, and so is feeling safe and comfortable in your own body.
IN HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF
You doubt yourself, push yourself hard and rarely feel you are good enough, however much you achieve. Criticism lands hard, and praise doesn’t land at all.
IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
You want closeness and then tense up when it arrives. You say yes when you mean no, or you pull away when things get too intimate. You find yourself in the same painful dynamic with different people.
These patterns are not character flaws. They’re strategies you built early in life, and they can change.
How I work with developmental trauma
Three stages, one path: Regulate. Understand. Reconnect.
Developmental trauma affects how your nervous system responds, how you see yourself and how you relate to others. My work addresses all three together, because changing one without the others rarely lasts.
REGULATE
Feel more settled in your body.
We build your capacity to notice what's happening in your body and to stay steady when stress or strong emotion arises. Body-based work, including TRE®, can help ease chronic tension.
UNDERSTAND
Notice your patterns as they happen.
If you already know your story, we move from knowing to noticing. If all of this is new, we build that awareness gradually, at your pace.
RECONNECT
Respond rather than react.
As old strategies loosen their grip, you gain access to your own feelings, needs and boundaries. The result is more freedom to live in a way that reflects who you are.
You don't need to know where to start.
We decide that together, based on what you bring.
Why NARM®?
Because understanding what happened back then isn't always enough to change what happens now.
NARM looks at how the survival strategies you developed early in life still shape your feelings and relationships today. We work with what is happening now, not by retelling your childhood. Say you'd like to set a boundary or ask for something you need. Instead of analyzing why that's hard, we slow down on the moment itself and notice what happens: your chest tightens, your voice drops, or a thought like "I'm being selfish" appears. That reaction is the pattern, and we work with it as it happens.
Hi, I'm Marc
Four years in acute trauma and addiction recovery taught me that the body has to settle before insight can help.
I'm Marc Rower, licensed for psychotherapy in Germany and a certified NARM® Master Therapist, specializing in developmental trauma, attachment and Complex PTSD (C-PTSD).
For over four years, I've worked in a private, international addiction and trauma recovery center on Koh Phangan, Thailand. I support people in acute distress: complex trauma, addiction, abuse and deep relational wounds.
I learned that when someone is stressed or shut down, talking and understanding don't get through. The body has to settle first. That's why calming the body and nervous system comes first in my work.
How I work with you
I don't follow a fixed program or ask you to fit a method. NARM® is the foundation of my work. Where it helps, I add Internal Family Systems (IFS), TRE® and other somatic approaches. Some clients arrive able to explain everything and unable to change it. Others arrive with no idea what's going on inside. Both are welcome. We start where you are, at a pace your system can handle.
In our first sessions, we work out what you most want for yourself. Then, with your permission, we explore together what's getting in the way.
Sessions are online worldwide, or in person on Koh Phangan.
Whether you know a lot or nothing at all, start with a conversation. In a free 20-30 minute call, you tell me what's been happening. I'll explain how I work and tell you honestly whether I can help. The purpose is clarity, not commitment.
Prefer to write first?
WhatsApp: +66 81 6340861 · E-mail: marc@traumatherapy.care
I don't offer emergency support. If you're in immediate danger, contact local emergency services.